Regression In Progress or NOT

 

Disclaimer : I know very well about Men's egos yet I am taking this risk because I have a point. So if you would like to read it, please proceed because this  is not written to hurt anyone for sure. Additionally Adam, Eve and Lilith are the most popular and Biblical reference names of first man and his two wives which would be discussed towards the end of this article. To all religious people out there, if you do not have a free mind to think about the reality which I would be describing there, you may omit that part. I mean at the end of the day everyone needs an enlightenment and principles to live with and any religion is just a tool to set that in every persons mind is my belief system so I am not against any religion however I do not prefer to follow anything blindly. 👍

This article should have been written 2 weeks back but if we haven't forgotten about #PriyankaReddy incident already, that incident triggered me to write this article. Then when I saw justice was served, I decided to wait till the heat of the moment passes. That being said let me reassure again and again that every man who dares to rape a woman should be slaughtered then and there. I am an advocate of womanhood however even with animals we humans as society animals we kill only the ones we choose to eat, so raping a woman and later brutally murdering a woman cannot be encouraged at  all. That needs to change.

Now, recently I read this when I was going through some article. If a man walks into a room and asks out every woman saying that he is in divine love with her and cannot live without her , 75% of women will agree to go out with him. However if a woman walks into a room and asks out every man with the same statement only 25% men will agree to go out with her.

If we twist the statements a little and if the same man walks into the room to ask out every woman saying that he would like to have fun time with her with a lot of sex, only 25% woman will agree to go out with him. However, if a woman walks into a room asking out every man with the same sentence, more than 75% men will agree to go out with her.

I mean to men the above scenario would be a macho thing however me being a woman it is a bit disturbing to me because I belong to that 75% woman in the second scenario and sadly my only option to choose for a life partner is reduced to less than 25%. Yes, I do not want my man to go out with another woman just for fun as he would prefer it that way. However, this is a sad reality every woman lives with as the society has actually imposed a very cunning story on to every woman's mind and that is 'men are wired in that way' which lacks any substantial proof.

Let me talk about women first  : The dreamy ones who are emotionally wired always fantasizing a perfect man to reach out to them, trust me that is just a dream and wake up to the reality. The obvious fact is that there is a certain chemical in women's brain which gives her that tickling feeling and retains that emotion within her in the longer run. Yes, it is a hormonal thing and with the chromosomes, femininity and masculinity is just a tap away from any individual but do you know who lacks that chemical in their brain ? Your male counterparts. Of all the righteous reasons why they decide to be with one woman, that chemical in their brain is not one among them. That lack of chemical is just a chromosomal factor too.

Why do I say this ? 

Psychologically you people do not have a strong heart, I mean you do not know how to handle your emotions properly however your mental strength and logics is way too amazing along with a physically strong body. Think about your first love and how quickly you have fallen for that girl and how much of an emotional fool you were in giving all of your love to that one person so quickly. Think about it. No matter how that relationship went, you will not forget her for the rest of your life. Even if you are not with her, somewhere in your head she would live for the rest of your life. Having said that, that one girl is a very lucky person if she had realized it or failed to realize it at that point.

Why does it happen ? 

 If that relationship does not fail, such men are the luckiest as well. However, here comes the sad reality, mostly it fails. Whatever is the reason for that relationship failure, would any of you deny you gave way too much of your love to that one girl ?

I can hear a big NO (of course in my assumptions sillies, remember I am another dreamy girl living in a dream world). But let me ask you all again, you all did give way too much of yourself to her right? Answer in your minds. I wish I hear a big YES, well I can always wish, shan't I ?

 
That being said, if at all you agree with me, the only reason is that you people have a very weak heart. But once the reality of that relationship strikes you all hard, most of you simply shut off the connection to your heart as you cannot take that pain any longer (Just remember all those days and it will remind you how you all dealt with that pain of losing your first true love).

Once you make yourself believe that you got over it, the ones who have shut down your connection to your heart will go on and become one hell of a logical being having strong mental wiring. Every woman will be judged, all their values and defects will be assessed from all angles and you tend to believe sex is the only emotion which drives everything (According to us woman, that is the biggest blunder you all make, but you all have a weak heart to even understand what that means).

Do you all know why you think sex is an emotion ?

(Understanding and accepting this reality is the trickiest part here. However, if you can relate to all the above, please try to accept this part as well, I hope I am not bruising any person's ego here)

This happens only because you have a tool which tricks you into believing that as all your emotions are processed in your mind instead of your heart. Let  me call that tool the illogical brain.

Let me introduce this concept:

All of  you men have two brains, a logical one up there and an illogical one down there.

Even if you people shut down your connection to your heart, you all can't stop feeling attracted to women which is averred by the saying "Girls are your only weakness".

 Now here comes the tricky part, even if you feel attracted to her you can't help analyzing her and everything about her including her attributes, character, values, etc. This is all in fact attributed to the lack of that chemical in your brain, but the sad reality is women process it all differently because they follow a different chromosomal wiring when it comes to emotions. So you keep on testing her with all your techniques forgetting that you are actually dealing with another human being who has all the emotions and brains just like you all. However they lack a logical wiring and they have an emotional wiring instead. How many times have you all tricked women to believe that you are in divine love with her just to find how she reacts to it ?  Answer me. So let me ask you all, would you people take it well if someone does that to you without investing any of their emotions on to you ?  Any self respecting individual will not take it well for sure. Do you all do that as you believe women were created out of your ribs ?  Trust me, if you proceed till the end you will find out the truth.

And how many women have you used on your path to find out the right one ? And by used, if you have dared to simply play with her emotions just for the sake of it, that is also termed 'using'.  Yet, women who believes in your tricks are the ones to be blamed ? OR your lack of emotional maturity.

Why do I say this ? 

Now, as per your requirement most of you do not have any issues in using any women at any time especially when you people lack that emotional maturity. So, here is how all the process goes on;

You feel attracted to a girl (definitely heart's work) you start chasing her (pursuing should be the right word however none of you would prefer to call it that). All the chivalry and chivalrous deeds comes out just to understand how she reacts to it all. This happens as you haven't invested anything emotionally in her at all yet you show it differently. So once you start seeing positive response from her, if you haven't found anyone else better than her by that time you progress to the next stage (testing phase two). Ohh your irresistible romantic advances.  If she doesn't resist that phase quality men are out. However if you would want to take advantage of that situation your illogical brain takes over. Once that testing phase is done, you all become quality men again as your logical brain takes over. Let me ask you all again, why are you assessing her again for all the drama you yourself have created in another being's life instead of learning a way to better way to deal with your emotional nuances ?  What is the point of all these things ?  The only valid reason is you couldn't resist your attraction to her which is skillfully ignored for all those assessments you do on her. If you do not want all these women drama in your life, I think you should have stopped looking at her in the first place. But ohh no "WE ARE MEN, WE CREATED YOU ALL FROM OUR RIBS". Woww.. seriously ?

Now, it takes years for you all to attain that emotional maturity as once you disconnect from your heart after the first heartbreak, it takes a lot of time to heal it unlike women as you all have a weak heart. By that time you definitely would have ruined many women's life. Yet, it is all fine for you once you find the right one because you finally found someone whom you can again connect with emotionally. Yes, that is a good thing when it happens. However, have you ever thought of all the other girls whom you had to scar emotionally for life on the way to reach the right one as you all could not resist your attraction to them at some phase in your life? Think about them some time because definitely those beings lack an emotional balance as well as brains so the damage it could cause to them would be vital for sure. I know it is hard to value all the other people like you value yourself however just think about it.

Why it cannot be changed ?

To change something, first and foremost we should put in the effort to understand where we went wrong. The first step to do that is to dissolve our egos as we will not be able to understand and realize our fault if we have an ego.

However when it comes to men and Manhood, the society has created a sociopath attire to men.
The providers, the ones who should be defined by actions and reactions rather than emotions. It is a good thing that you can call yourselves protectors and providers however that should not give anyone the privilege to take others for granted. If it is hard to digest, yet again let me ask you all, why can't you all respect and love ladies in your life like you respect and love your mother ? Think about it because there lies the answer to all your problems.

If you do not want to find a solution to these problems now, have you all seen those men in movies who attains the path of spirituality and go for pilgrimage once they become old ?  God is not the trigger, the only trigger which makes them do that are their regrets because no matter how you carry yourself if you live by the sociopath attire which society has given you, as age progresses you cannot stop yourself from connecting to your heart and the weight of all your regrets will kick in. And trust me, by that time it would be too late to even repent. So, if you all can live a healthy life by understanding all these and by bridging all these gaps that is the best thing to do. And start now, starting something to make yourself a better person will be never late once you decide to start it.

 
 The myth of Adam, Lilith and Eve. 
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As per the myth, Adam and Lilith were created together by God. They were actually the first men and first women, the first husband and wife created at the same time by God. I could not find any reference of Adam creating Lilith out of his rib. However, once Lilith goes all evil is when God had to create Eve out of Adam's rib bone to provide him a second righteous wife who would not turn evil. After that there are very less references about Lilith in history.

Now, having said that Eve is also a woman and I am not against her in any ways. I am saying this as if there is any chance that Lilith is the first woman created by God then I would have been calling myself Lilith and urging everyone to call themselves Lilith for being God's own creation for apparent reasons. If Lilith has gone evil, she should also have gotten another chance at rehab right.

 

A lot of null hypothesis'es based on which I have made this analysis;

• Even if Adam and Lilith were the first man and woman, how could they convey it all to us without a language. Did God create language as well. It God didn't create it, would Adam and Lilith create a language. Actually I do not think language is that much of a necessity to communicate with just one person.
• Anatomically, men and women have almost similar construct except for the reproductive organs and some glands. 
• A man's weakness is a woman's strength(heart) and a man's strength is a woman's weakness (brain and physical strength) which yet again compliments each other. So if women were created out of men, it is a clear violation of genetics as it does not explain how women inherited Adam's weakness and made it her strength. Evolution does not cover that, only mutation can cover that. But that is all an anomaly or an exception considering Eve is created out of Adam's bone.
• If Adam and Eve were the first men and women, how did it all progress further considering the societal construct of family. I mean a father and mother can only generate siblings. So as per concept of family, how did it go further ?

Well there are more concerns which I could  not address.

Considering only the last point and without considering any of the religious aspects, definitely to proceed further with regeneration it should need something more. And even if there is very less information on Lilith, not even a single transcript denies the creation of Lilith along with Adam and also of the fact that Lilith was the first wife of Adam. All the men should be successors of Adam as well, yet I do not see a rib missing. So, we are all adults here, so to all of you Adams, can you please think about another bone of yours which comes and goes when required. So rationally, an Adam who chose his daughter over his wife for regeneration was that great great grandfather (and schemer) of all of us. Again, I am not against religions but if I take that as a possibility it clears all my concerns.

Think about it again, history can be manipulated because we were not present there at that time, however should we all cloud our reality based on what we cannot see in front of our eyes. 

Bring back humanity.. Please!! 

I am calling out to you all men because unlike women you all have a very logical mind. So think about it. 

Does women deserve this kind of treatment based on some of our ancestors manipulation?
Does your counterparts deserve this kind of treatment based on that ? 

Please think about it..👍

Now does the leaf and thorn concept mess with your understanding? If yes, the truth is women are fragile but aren't you all fragile as well. So, let me build a new concept here. Think of you as a key and a women as your home. So every time you try to open a wrong lock, does it affect only the lock ? It affects the key as well right ?  Again, key is your emotional investment and lock is women's emotional investment.  So, please do not man it up and say it won't affect you guys at all. If it doesn't why is it hard to connect to any women emotionally after your first love failure  ?  And one more thing, what a women conceives she always ejects but you people can never do that. So if at all you reach till here, please understand that I am trying to empower you all in the right ways even if it is a bit contradictory to the societal methods.

Penis: 

 

I know sex education should be a mandatory class in schools which apparently is not. But luckily as someone who could be a part of an education system which ensured sex education/awareness classes at timely intervals and being the mother of a 7 year old boy there are two things I can authoritatively talk about. Okay, penis is a male reproductive organ. As Google says, in many animals, a penis is the main male sexual organ used to inseminate females during copulation. Such organs occur in both vertebrates and invertebrates, but males do not bear a penis in every animal species. An erection (clinically: penile erection or penile tumescence) is a physiological phenomenon in which the penis becomes firm, engorged, and enlarged. Penile erection is the result of a complex interaction of psychological, neural, vascular, and endocrine factors, and is often associated with sexual arousal, sexual attraction or libido, although erections can also be spontaneous. I know as adults our brains will go only to the sections which talks about sex, attraction, arousal and all of that whenever we hear the word penis. But there are other scenarios as well; a bad dream while sleeping, while peeing, sensation of fear and panic, both tinkling and tickling sensation, rubbing off sensitive areas for personal as well as physiological ailments, while performing strenuous physical activities such as workouts, sports.,etc. to list a few. All I am saying is with right awareness and education, there is no taboo in talking about many things, penis being one among such topics. 

 

Yes, my analysis cannot be completed if I do not include penis in the rib theory and yes I am a woman and as an educated individual I do not find anything abnormal about being infuriated by what happened to Priyanka Reddy, Nirbhaya and many more out there. As an individual of this society I respect ego and understand it very well and appreciate it in many scenarios as well but I will not partake in protecting something if breaking a part of it would allow me to negotiate with crappiness fed by the society for years, I would rather take that chance to negotiate with that urge which I have named as "illogical brain" to correct  it for every other woman out there.

[Reframing an old article written on 25th Dec, 2019 to include more points] 

 

And as a mother who has conversations with my 7 year old son every single day, I know one thing he is not born with an illogical mind, may be he will pick it at some point on the growth ladder or under the influence of friends/family/even societal interactions but I have a clean slate with me right now which I am damn sure of so what I attempting to break down or register is that  illogical brain might not be a psychological change rather it could be a result of a millenia old societal wiring which is the root cause of heinous punishable activities by law activities against women. Just a possibility. That being said, physiological needs and psychological triggers which are part of adulthood and the need for procreation when coupled with the logical brain (which appreciates and would view women as another human being who deserves and needs respect ) is the only normal and healthy way as it all appears to me as an adult. I can only ask you all to think about it as I need to conclude my article. 🙏